Saturday, May 21, 2011

The break-up!

Hey all,

Reuben and I broke up this past week on Tuesday evening. Been quite the week, if you ask me. Lots of tears and sadness...so much so...that yesterday I was finally at my breaking point. I hadn't eaten much, slept much, cried TOO much, so I had a tummy ache, headache and felt hot and dizzy. I managed to make it through the work day and then came straight home and went to bed. It helped alot!! Then, I just sat in my chair the rest of the evening. Reuben got dinner for us, so that helped with the lack of food in my stomach and I felt much better by the end of the evening. Had a good night's sleep and then got up about 6:30 cuz I had so much sleep! It really really sucks when two people love each other, but just can't make it work at the moment. We will still be in contact and seeing each other for various events so maybe if we really take our time, things will work out. I think we both need breathing room right now! He commends me daily for having the strength and courage to bring our issues to light and taking action on it. We will see what happens, but will take one day at a time!!

I'm officially on vacation from the bank for two weeks! Woo!! Kalyn and I are going to a different bank on Monday to apply for a small car loan for her and I work that evening at the gym, Tuesday we go to Santa Fe to drop off stuff to Tyler-Kalyn has her oral surgery appointment-then pickup Mom from the train station and bring her back to LA!! Wednesday I work that evening at the gym and then Friday we pick up Kalyn's cake, get party food ready and Friday evening is our meal at good ol' Gabriel's restaurant with Diana/Tj/Kev and whomever else wants to join! Saturday is the graduation at 9am! Aunt Jill and her bf Tim will be driving here on Sat. and get here around party time at noon! Really looking forward to the week with Mom and getting things ready for the graduation!

That's about all for now! Until next time...

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Forgot!!

Hey all,

I suppose I should fill you in on Kalyn's plans!!! At first she was gonna stay here in LA and take classes at the little University here. Well, then she figured out that she would probably have a tough time with classes and such. She just doesn't feel ready to have a full class load with tough college classes...sooo...she's been thinking about Cosmetology school!! She had first thought of moving to Moab and stay with Stephanie, but go to school in Grand Junction, CO, during the week and stay with Steph's daughter Aly, there. Well, then she figured her Dad would return from duty and then she would have to finish school and just stay with Aly. Then, she thought well, i could go live with Dad in Kansas after he is back and go to school in Manhattan which is about 30 min away from Ft. Riley, KS. NOW....she's been talking with her Aunts and Uncles and one set is in Colorado Springs (with a 5 year old daughter) and the other are in Minneapolis. She has a high school friend that is going to be in MN for her college and then Kalyn thought she would be real close to family in WI if she went to MN. So as of right now...she is thinking of doing the MN thing. We told her to make sure what the "expectations" are of living with them, etc. Will she have to pay for anything?? We hate for her to go there and have false expectations and there she is stuck, you know? That's what she is contending with at the moment. She plans to move there in the Fall sometime after getting a good car and saving up money from working. I will probably take time off work and get her up there and then fly home.

Just thought I would fill you in.... :) Until next time...

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Weekend

Hey all,

Well, my dear Reuben is gone this weekend until Tuesday up in Washington state, visiting his 91 year old mother, whom he hasn't seen in 15 years!! His family had a falling out a bunch of years back and he just didn't connect back up with anyone until a couple of years ago. A client of his, gave him a free round-trip ticket (stand-by) to go see her!! I hear they are having a wonderful time catching up and today they are out sight-seeing and he said it is just gorgeous there!! She lives in Edmond, WA.

Sooo... while Reuben is away, I am cleaning and working!! I am doing some deep cleaning and organizing around the house to make sure all is well before company comes for Kalyn's graduation! My house, on the surface, is clean, but with 4 pets, there is a lot of pet hair in corners and such so I am working on that and dusting ceiling fans, window ledges, etc...all the detailed cleaning one hates to do....well anyone but me, that is. :)

I also plan to bake cookies for K's party and put those in the freezer so that they are ready for the party in two weeks. The weather is great so I watered and mowed the lawn last night. I think I have a couple of cupboards that need organizing so I will whip those up in the am before church. I'm working at the gym right now. I am soooo glad I am not cleaning for Angie anymore...makes my Saturday mornings so much better!!

Tyler is still job hunting. He is applying for pretty much anything he can get his hands on, at this point. Hopefully something comes along soon!!

Kalyn has one week of school left!! Woohoo!! She turned in all her books yesterday and then she just has a few finals to take and she'll be finished. The Seniors get the last week off from school so that they can do the picnic, hand out their gowns, have rehearsal, stuff like that. My Mom comes to town on the 24th so that will be nice to finally have her here too!! Kalyn has her consultation appointment on the 24th for her to have her wisdom teeth removed here within the next couple of weeks. We want to get it done before she is gone and before she no longer has insurance....her Dad may be getting discharged from the Army so we are trying to get this done quickly. Shane has real bad depression and PTSD from being over in Afghanistan. He was supposed to go back after Jesse's funeral, but he had really bad symptoms and didn't go back. He went to the VA hospital in Grand Junction, CO for treatment and then they recently sent him back to Kansas to his doctor there. That's about all I know....

Monday night there is our Bloom event again at the church. Its a ladies event that they have about every 3-4 months. I'm taking two friends with me, so that should be fun. Last time they had a shoe fashion show...this time it is kids modeling clothes that this lady makes. I made and donated one of my bracelets as a raffle prize. Reuben donated a massage coupon. They always have great things that they raffle off! They serve you dinner and it is sooo much fun. It only costs $10!!

Well, that is all for now...keep in touch and love you all! Until next time...

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Mother's Day!

Hey all,

Just thought I would whip up a few lines here while I am at work today!!

First of all, happy Mother's Day tomorrow, to all you mother's out there. I hope each and every one of you have a wonderful day!!

Today I got to sleep in a little bit, then did some laundry and dusting around the house, showered and then decided to go do yardwork after being all clean!! LOL Not sure what I was thinking, but I did some raking and then got the lawnmower going and cut the grass out front. We need to water really badly. The rains this year have been non-existant. Reuben is still working on the water line that is broken. We hope that this is it and it will be fixed so our swamp cooler can run and the lawn can get watered. It is dry, dry, dry.... I'm praying for no rain for Kalyn's graduation though. lol

Sasha the puppy is still doing great. She is very good and doesn't bark hardly at all.

Tyler is here in town for a bit. He is picking up some items that he left at Gram's townhouse to store until he officially moved into his room at his new place in SF. So, it was good to see him as he needed to get the house key from me. He is still job hunting and hopefully he finds one soon!!

That's all for now. Love to all....until next time...

Saturday, April 30, 2011

ahhhh....almost May!!

Well, my fellow bloggers...thought I better catch you up to date!!

Jesse's funeral/memorial all went well. People arrived...then people left....everything went really well and it sure was great to see everyone!! There is not a day that goes by that we don't say something about Jesse. We loved him so much and he will be missed dearly!

Jennie, Ryan, Katy, David, Heidi, Ellen and Meira all stayed at a friends house of Jennie while they were here. The house just happens to be empty (still has furniture) and is used as a get-a-way home for Jennie's friend Allison. It was the house that Allison grew up in and her mother passed away two years ago, but they still kept the house and all the belongings in it. So, long story short, Allison was happy to have someone staying there to keep an eye on things. The washer and dryer apparently do not work well, so they all asked me if I would mind washing the sheets and towels....i had no problem doing that for them. Jennie gave me a key and I went over there and made the beds again and put the towels away. Now I am working on getting the townhouse in order. I spent an hour over there one day on my lunch this past week and made a big dent in the cleaning. I had to take all the trash up to the street and then some more bags to the bank trash bin as there was so much of it!! I also gathered up the dirty sheets and towels from there and got all that done also. I should be done with the cleaning tomorrow and should only take another hour.

I stopped cleaning for Angie!!! I was just getting too frustrated with that place and not finding it enjoyable to help her anymore. She is divorced now, her kids have moved away, but now she's got a homeless family living with her temporarily and it just seems odd for me to be there when that lady that is living there should be cleaning for her instead, you know? I just can't see cleaning for her for so little money and its always messy and this last time I was there I could tell she was frustrated with her guests and expressed that to me. She actually was being quite rude to me and I decided...enough is enough. Reuben even quoted some quote saying "insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results"... I still clean for the Courtrights and usually she only needs me once a month, so that is perfect for me. Plus, I need to get back into working out more religiously and this free time on Saturday am will help with that.

I've been working on graduation announcements and have those all ready to mail out!! Kalyn only has 3 more weeks of school! Her graduation and party will be May 28th. Graduation is with a ticket only and then the party will be at our house from noon to 4. I am off work from the bank from May 23-June 3rd. I'm hoping to get the house clean for the party, cleaned after the party and then get Kalyn ready for her wisdom teeth removal during that time.

Tyler is putting the finishing touches on moving to Santa Fe this weekend. He borrowed my Jeep yesterday to take a load from ABQ to SF. He's got friends helping him today get the last big furniture and such. He is still job hunting so hopefully he finds something quick. I think his money supply is getting low!!

Mother's Day is right around the corner...had to get all my cards/gifts ready to send out for this next week also. You should see all the cards that need to go out between Mother's Day, Graduation and birthday's coming up that are all sitting on my counter ready to go out!!! lol

I'm hoping to make it to Maryland sometime this summer to visit with my Mom and then Carole Schultz wants Kalyn and I to go up to Denver for a weekend this summer and hang out with her. I know Reuben wants to go camping too and his daughter is setting up a family camping event for Father's Day weekend. I don't think Tyler or Kalyn will want to go and I really don't wanna go for 4 days. We shall see....

So, Reuben and I are doing ok these days. He has dedicated his life to God and got baptized in March. I think he is finally seeing that I am not ready to dedicate my life to God like he has and so we are unsure of our future right now. I am taking it a day at a time to help me get through this. He is such a wonderful person, very caring, very concerned about me and my kids and would do just about anything for me. But, when Kalyn and I were at the Jason Aldean concert, I thought to myself, there is no way Reuben would come to this concert with me. If there is an event that doesn't honor God, he will not go. I barely got him to go with me to the Easter egg hunt for church and afterwards he told me that he probably shouldn't have helped with that. So, I told him/asked him that I need to have someone in my life that will do things with me otherwise I have to find someone to go to these events with me. He understands that it is a legit claim that I have. It got him thinking that we may not be together because of his dedication to the Lord. He doesn't wanna pressure me into anything, which is very nice of him, and I think this is really hard for him cuz we were so close before he re-dedicated his life and now we are moving further and further apart. So, time will tell....I'm excited for some family to meet him at the graduation. I don't think he will be at the party though. :)

Well, that is all for now...I'm looking forward to seeing family the end of May. I'm hoping May is a good month also!! 2011 has not been a good year for me, so far. I'm staying positive though and hoping for the best!! Love to all...until next time....

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Jesse


Hey all,

I'm sure you have all heard the news, that my dear, dear former brother-in-law, Jesse W Schultz, passed away on April 12th. He was 30. His birthday is next Saturday the 23rd and I was just thinking about what to send him for his birthday, when we got the news. His memorial will be next Saturday, here in Los Alamos. Very sad times for everyone. We had just seen him in Florida, two weeks prior to his death, so it is really hitting us hard. Little did we know, that time we had would be the LAST time. We have good days and bad days around here...I'm sure next weekend will be a tough one. Words just can't describe how it is so hard to believe he is gone. I look at our Florida pictures with him in them, and it's just crazy that he is no longer there.

That's all I have for now....too sad.... Until next time...

Saturday, April 2, 2011

April!!

Hey all,

Just a quick note while I'm here working at the gym today...

Called Green Tree yesterday and they are still waiting for the guy to come take a picture of the outside of the house before they accept my landlords offer. They have no idea when the guy will come take the picture and it didn't sound like they really cared when he would get it done. Kind of strange, I think. I emphasized with the lady on the phone that I have this man interested in purchasing the home as soon as possible so if they could do anything to speed it along, I would appreciate it. She had no clue.... lol oh well...I will just keep calling and find out the status of it all.

We returned safely from Florida on Thursday at about 4pm in ABQ. We dropped Tyler off at home and then me and K ran a few errands and then headed up to Los Alamos. Friday I spent most of the day at home cleaning, getting organized, paying bills, etc and then had my annual eye exam appointment. He dialated my eyes this time, so that was kinda fun..not!! I couldn't read my shopping list when i went to the store afterwards!! LOL The doctor said my far sightedness is going very very slowly, but its nothing to worry about right now. He did print out my prescription in case I decided to get a pair of glasses for distances. I don't really see the need at this point. :)

All is going well here...I worked over at the Courtrights this morning for a little bit. She is having me start some Spring cleaning over there. That usually involves spraying off the two story deck outside for an afternoon, cleaning ceiling fans, vacuuming furniture and then polishing the wood cupboards. I did the furniture today. In the cleaning department, I am thinking of quitting my cleaning job with Angie. It is becoming too much over there. She lives alone, yet it is always such a mess and she keeps stacks and stacks of stuff everywhere, that it is really hard to clean around her mess and then it makes me feel like I'm not doing a good enough job for her. I may let her know that as of July 1st, I will no longer be cleaning. I will still do the Courtrights cuz she only needs me once a month and its so easy to clean for her. She only pays me $17 an hour, but Angie only pays me $15.

Kalyn is getting closer and closer to graduation!! Very excited for her!!

Tyler is doing well. He is getting closer to moving to Santa Fe. His job ends April 10th and he is vigorously looking for a new job in SF, as we speak. He put in his notice to the coffee place without having a new job, so I hope he has this figured out!!

Well, that is all I have for now. It is slow today at the gym..probably cuz most folks aren't back from Spring Break yet. The weather is really lovely, but there is a cold front coming in tomorrow. Love to all...keep writing...until next time...